Finding Meaning and Life Goals

Meaning is the coherence and direction of your own story: the past, present and future add up to something that makes sense. In practice we hold on to three pillars:

When these pillars are reinforced, resilience grows, priorities become clearer, and decisions improve.

Relocations, career changes, divorce, losses, “midlife” — are moments when old strategies stop working. Common experiences: emptiness (“why get up?”), a sense that the old identity is falling apart, being stuck between options. In sessions we turn this pain into choice: what kind of person do you want to be in these new conditions. I work gently, without “you just have to endure,” using modern approaches (existential therapy, ACT, CBT, logotherapy).

Values are not goals and not to-do lists, but life directions (care, freedom, fairness, creativity, growth, etc.). You can’t “finish” them — you can live them. Together we:

Result — clear priorities and decisions that hold even when it’s hard.

A goal is a marker of a value being realised. We turn “what matters” into measurable, achievable steps. We use a concise SMART-ER frame (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound + Evaluation/Readjustment), but without bureaucracy:

I combine methods to match your request and your pace.

1. Assessment and focus. Where exactly it hurts: values, role, environment, identity. We formulate 3–5 clear goals.

2. Values → behaviour. We describe how “what matters” looks in your actions this week.

3. Goals and reality-check. We set markers, agree on criteria, discuss risks/support.

4. Cognitive re-check. We ground thoughts and fears, remove black-and-white thinking.

5. Integration. We choose rituals and agreements your schedule can actually hold.

6. Review and adjustment. We note progress and move to the next step.

We test all solutions in real life, without “heroism at any cost.”

Not checklists and discipline “for the tick”, but a clear support system: you act, I help keep the focus, pace and adjustments so that the result stays in a month and in six months.

If together with the search for meaning there are: persistent low mood/anxiety, insomnia, being stuck in avoidance and self-sabotage, marked loss of interest, intrusive thoughts of death — this is a zone for professional work. In therapy we safely unpack values, remove cognitive traps, build a real plan and bring back your foundations — bodily, emotional and social.

1. Diagnostics and goals — 1st session. We look at the current situation: where it hurts (values, role, environment, identity). We formulate 3–5 clear goals and result criteria.

2. Values → actions. We clarify key values and translate them into observable weekly steps: what exactly you do and how we’ll see progress.

3. Cognitive re-check. We gently remove black-and-white thinking, catastrophising and rigid “musts”; we bring back realism and flexibility.

4. Integration. We set up supportive agreements and rituals that your schedule can actually carry (work/home/wellbeing).

5. Review and adjustment. We regularly check against goals, confirm with facts what worked, and fine-tune the plan without self-criticism.

Methods: modern CBT, ACT (psychological flexibility), elements of existential and narrative approaches. Just enough theory to make it clear and useful.